Dear Sister,

What does your relationship with others, God and yourself look like? Would you be surprised to know that whatever they are, they are a reflection of you. Do you want them to change? If so, start with the woman in your mirror. First, discover how you feel about yourself. The status of every relationship in your life begins with the one you have with you. How you feel about yourself is reflected in every horizontal relationship (with others) and your vertical relationship (with God).

Grab a mirror and look into it. Grab a pen and paper, draw a line down the center and write down what you see in the mirror on the left side. Be honest. Review what you have written, ask yourself and ask God what can be done to address each one, writing the answer down on the right side of the paper.

Lay those things on the altar before God. Give them to Him with the willingness to take the corrective measures as He shows them to you no matter how uncomfortable it may feel—or whether you want to do it or not. Trust Him to know what is best. God desires for us to have right relationships with others, Himself, and ourselves. The core issue is usually self-rejection. Allow Him to deal with you and the other relationships will fall into place. Some may even fall away—but let them fall where they may—not everybody is going to be ready for the new you.

angela